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Responsibility and self-attack are not the same thing
Most people who struggle with self-forgiveness are not trying to escape responsibility. They are trying to survive the relentless experience of being attacked from the inside. Long after something has happened — something said, done, or failed to do — the mind keeps returning to it. Not to understand it more clearly, but to rehearse the same accusations over and over again. What if I had known better? How could I have done that? What kind of person does that make me? At first
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6 hours ago3 min read
How we lose trust in ourselves - and how to find our way back.
A quiet exploration of how self-trust is lost through inner conflict, guilt and self-attack - and how it can begin to return without forcing or fixing. Most people don’t lose trust in themselves suddenly. It happens gradually, through small moments of doubt that quietly accumulate over time. You may begin by questioning a feeling that once seemed clear, or by hesitating over decisions that used to come naturally. Perhaps you start looking outside yourself more often — for rea
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21 hours ago4 min read


3 Steps to Forgiving Yourself and Finding Healing
3 steps to start releasing guilt and healing yourself
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Nov 22, 20258 min read
When guilt turns against you
Not all guilt is the same. There is healthy guilt about what you've done and toxic guilt about who you are.
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Dec 13, 20233 min read
When we confuse who we are with who we think we should be
Much of our inner struggle comes from a quiet confusion about identity
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Dec 13, 20233 min read
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