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When Thinking falls quiet: the experience of flow
At different moments in life, you may find yourself in a state of flow - a state of full involvement where action and awareness merge
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Feb 103 min read
When we try to escape ourselves: the pull of dark flow
States of deep absorption can feel profoundly relieving. But not all absorption serves us in the same way.
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Feb 103 min read
When the mind turns against itself.
Most people don’t experience their suffering as a problem with their mind. They experience it as themselves being the problem. The thoughts feel personal. Convincing. Often harsh. And because they sound like truth, they’re taken seriously. You may notice an inner voice that constantly evaluates, corrects, or criticises — pointing out where you went wrong, what you should have known, or who you ought to be by now. At times it can feel relentless, as though there is no rest fr
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Feb 103 min read
Responsibility and self-attack are not the same thing
Most people who struggle with self-forgiveness are not trying to escape responsibility. They are trying to survive the relentless experience of being attacked from the inside. Long after something has happened — something said, done, or failed to do — the mind keeps returning to it. Not to understand it more clearly, but to rehearse the same accusations over and over again. What if I had known better? How could I have done that? What kind of person does that make me? At first
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Feb 103 min read
How we lose trust in ourselves - and how to find our way back.
A quiet exploration of how self-trust is lost through inner conflict, guilt and self-attack - and how it can begin to return without forcing or fixing. Most people don’t lose trust in themselves suddenly. It happens gradually, through small moments of doubt that quietly accumulate over time. You may begin by questioning a feeling that once seemed clear, or by hesitating over decisions that used to come naturally. Perhaps you start looking outside yourself more often — for rea
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Feb 94 min read
3 Steps to Forgiving Yourself and Finding Healing
3 steps to start releasing guilt and healing yourself
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Nov 22, 20258 min read
The 5 stages of love
The falling in love stage lasts from 6 months to 2 years. There are 4 more stages in the typical love relationship
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Jul 31, 202511 min read
Relationships as a path to growth
overcoming the fear of intimacy in relationships
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Jul 31, 20254 min read
Reconnecting with your inner voice - through dreams
We all dream every night even if we don't remember our dreams. Where do dreams come from? How can we access the wisdom of our dreams.
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Jul 15, 20256 min read
Doing your own shadow work
The shadow is one aspect of our wholeness. Learn to recognize when your shadow is showing.
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Jul 11, 20255 min read
When it's all just too much. Dealing with overwhelming feelings.
when you are overwhelmed by emotions or going through a breakup, you can anchor yourself in your body
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Jul 8, 20253 min read
5 tips to get in touch with your intuitive mind.
When you are caught in a dilemma, get in touch with the intuitive part of yourself for the answer.
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Jun 26, 20256 min read


Julie. A revelation about a relationship breakdown.
Julie came to see me because she was distressed and disturbed by a relationship breakdown.
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Jun 25, 20253 min read


Joseph and Georgina - a discovery through relationship counselling.
Joseph and Georgina came to see me about their relationship. The main problem appeared to be Joseph's binge drinking.
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Jun 14, 20253 min read
When guilt turns against you
Not all guilt is the same. There is healthy guilt about what you've done and toxic guilt about who you are.
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Dec 13, 20234 min read
When we confuse who we are with who we think we should be
Much of our inner struggle comes from a quiet confusion about identity
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Dec 13, 20233 min read
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